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iVillage.com: 20 People You Need Out of Your Life

The Ex who Calls for Sex

Sure, it’s nice to have a sex buddy on speed dial, but is his presence in your life adding or taking away value?

“A woman who keeps an ex in her life purely for sexual reasons is essentially building up a barrier to her own happiness,” says Hylen. “By cutting this person out of her life, she can move past old feelings and emotional attachments and in turn open her heart and mind to new experiences and relationships.

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The Office Gossip

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Sometimes, it’s nice to take a break in your day to get the scoop on who’s smooching who and who’s getting the pink slip. But is the office gossip stopping by your desk way too often?

“The office gossip can be a destructive force in your life, as this person calls your own integrity into question in the eyes of your superiors and coworkers,” says Karen Hylen, Ph.D, primary therapist at Summit Malibu Treatment Center. “Without this type of person in her life, a woman can grow stronger in her feelings of self-worth and be an integral part of the office environment, rather than an outsider looking in.”

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The Ex who Calls for Sex

The Ex who Calls...

Sure, it’s nice to have a sex buddy on speed dial, but is his presence in your life adding or taking away value?

“A woman who keeps an ex in her life purely for sexual reasons is essentially building up a barrier to her own happiness,” says Hylen. “By cutting this person out of her life, she can move past old feelings and emotional attachments and in turn open her heart and mind to new experiences and relationships.

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You don’t really like her, but you get together out of guilt. The truth is, that’s not good for her or yourself.

“Women experience emotions on a very visceral level, taking in their surroundings and feeding off others energy,” says Hylen. “It’s more effective emotionally for a woman to have people in her life who exude positive energy, rather than those who can drain her of the vital life energy she needs to maintain her own quality of life.”

The painful truth: You have to give the Sad Sack some space and find friends that are on your level.

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The Guy On the Fence

The Guy On the F...

He says he loves spending time with you but he won’t put a ring on it -- or even let you leave a toothbrush at his place! It’s time to tell yourself that you’re worth being “the one” -- if not to him, then someone else.

“Being with a man who won’t commit to you or take you seriously as a woman can result in low self-esteem and depressive thoughts or behaviors,” says Hylen. “A woman is better off being with someone who does not deny her those emotions, which are critical to her overall mental health and well-being.”

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There’s always that sibling, cousin or aunt who is forever trying to fix your life. They mean well, but seriously … buzz off!

“A pitying relative who tries to help you in various areas of your life can lead to a belief that you are not self-reliant or independent,” says Hylen. “Not having this person in your life will allow you to make your own mistakes and be accountable for them so you don’t repeat them in the future.”

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She’s your friend, but also your arch enemy. How is this fun?

“Women deserve friendships in which they support each other’s triumphs as opposed to bringing each other down,” says Jessica LeRoy, psychotherapist and founder of Center for the Psychology of Women. “Some women who are a bit more insecure may believe that they deserve this type of friendship, or that this is normal female behavior. In reality, supporting each other makes us feel much better about ourselves and our friends.”

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The Half-Assed Friend

The Half-Assed F...

She forgets to return calls for months, doesn’t acknowledge your special occasions and is generally MIA. When you do make plans, she’s always rescheduling at the last minute or showing up super late.

“You should dump this ‘friend’ because she does not respect your time or your life,” says LeRoy. “You need to spend that time with those who do appreciate you as a friend and who are interested in your life.” The verdict: Time to move on to someone who has friendship to give.

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The 'Old Friend'

The 'Old Friend'

Maybe it’s a friend from high school or a different time in your life, but if all you have to talk about is the past, it can get old pretty quick.

“It’s great to have friends from your past, but if that is all you have to connect on, you’re not moving forward with your lives or making new memories,” says LeRoy. “Live in the present and spend time with people you would like to make new memories with.” The next time she calls to make plans take a pass and spend the time with someone in your present -tense!

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From asking you to help her spy on her ex to involving you in her get-rich-quick schemes, she’s always trying to make you an accomplice to her shady plans. You might want to spend your time with someone who has more lofty goals and aspirations!

“What are you really gaining from this friendship?” asks LeRoy. “It sounds like this person only wants a sidekick who will take the fall with her. You have better things to do with your time.”

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The Bad Influence

The Bad Influenc...

Sometimes a bad influence can be fun, but this person just brings out the worst in you -- from bad eating habits to low-self esteem.

“When you only have one thing in common with a friend, and that one thing is not very healthy, it’s time to ask yourself: Is that how I want to be spending my time?” says LeRoy. “Why not spend time with people who you can indulge with occasionally but you also connect with on other levels?”

Next time you befriend someone ask yourself: Does this person raise me up or bring me down?

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You’re always scraping this friend off the floor -- literally and figuratively. A night out with her is full of surprises -- in a bad way.

“If you’re the one always bailing your friend out of difficult situations then you're the one dealing with the hot mess, not her,” says Barbara Neitlich, L.C.S.W., a Beverly Hills psychotherapist. “Once you release this type of friend out of your life, you will truly recognize how this individual often drew the mental (and sometimes) physical life right out of you.”

Remember, you can’t fix her life until she’s ready to help herself.

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Your Gazillion Facebook Friends

Your Gazillion F...

If you’re spending all your time on the computer, chances are you’re missing out on real life.

“Shut off the computer, get off the couch and jump into this game we call life,” says Neitlich. “You are better off having a few true friends that you can confide in rather than a bunch of Facebook friends you barely know. Your true friends will stand by you when you really need them. Your Facebook friends may simply log out!”

Facebook is a fun pastime, just be sure not to let those online friends take the place of real life ones.

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The Broke Buddy

The Broke Buddy

Whether it’s a friend always asking you to spot her at dinner (and never paying you back) or a relative who expects you to pay for his life, remember you are a person and not an ATM.

“Get rid of those who don’t pay their way,” says Neitlich. “In time you end up building resentment for always having to be the one to pay. Cutting the cord with these folks allows you to stand your ground as a woman who is savvy and mindful of her money!”

Think of all the things you can do with that extra cash once you get this person out of your life!

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The Office Husband

The Office Husba...

One or both of you are married but you have a pretty serious flirtation going on.

“Set boundaries,” says Neitlich. “Stop engaging in the playful banter. You're better off moving away from this type of temptation, as it almost always ends in disaster.”

Even if you swear you’ll never act on your feelings, it’s better not to go there in the first place!

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She makes you feel bad about your clothes, your car and your staycation. Friends don’t let friends feel like less-thans!

“When you consistently allow someone to make you feel badly about yourself, you turn a great deal of mental power over to them,” says Neitlich. “Most of us are pretty critical of ourselves. Do we really need a ‘friend’ who is so critical of us?”

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She wishes she had your looks, your hubs, your adorable children…your life. Um, creepy.

“This woman is a time bomb waiting to go off because she can only take so much drooling over what you have,” says Carole Lieberman, MD, a Beverly Hills psychiatrist and award-winning author. “She will change from sucking-up to stealing your designer duds…or even your husband.”

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She gives unsolicited advice even though you’ve politely asked her to stop. There’s no reason to continue being held in contempt of her court.

“Too much time spent in her company will make you doubt every decision you’ve made,” says Dr. Lieberman. “She wants to give you a life sentence of insecurity without parole.”

Find a friend who’s cool with letting you make your own choices -- even if she disagrees with them.

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The Bitter Betty

The Bitter Betty

Everything is negative in her life and spending time with her makes you feel like life sucks.

“Bitter people are bad for your health,” says Lieberman. “If you want negativity in your life, you can read the headlines and do away with her.”

Life’s too short for this type of attitude. It’s time to break up!

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She gives you compliments that somehow also take you down a notch. How does she do that?!

“This so-called friend is passive-aggressive and not to be trusted,” says Lieberman. “She’ll smile while she’s twisting the knife in deeper.”

The next time she gives you a backhanded compliment, show her to your front door.

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Whether it’s who took the nicer vacation or who has better parenting skills, she’s always trying to one up you.

“It’s exhausting to try to be friends with The Competitor -- and not really worth it,” says Lieberman. “She’s just using you to try to feel better about her poor, pathetic self.”

Seek out friends who support you and you’ll be a whole lot happier in all aspects of your life.

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