If there’s anything reality TV shows have cemented in my mind it’s that most people don’t change, they just get older. Yep, whether watching any of Bravo’s “Real Housewives” shows, Vh1′s “Mob Wives,” “Love & Hip Hop” or its “Basketball Wives” offerings, the stories are always the same: insecure women offering and snatching away kindness like prepubescent tweens. Unfortunately, Sunday’s “The Real Housewives of Atlanta” and “Blood, Sweat & Heels” stuck to that script–good and grown women acting a plum fool. Gossiping, bickering, insincerity, treachery. ”It feels like the same kind of bullying from junior high,” “Blood, Sweat & Heels” cast member Mica Hughes said on a recent episode. Ding, ding, ding! I always like to look for the silver lining. And believe it or not, I saw a glimmer compliments of that same “Blood, Sweat & Heels” episode. I picked up three nuggets of wisdom from its cast members that I think we all could learn from. “Blood, Sweat & Heels” airs at 9 p.m. EST on Bravo. Watch it here.
Keep yourself surrounded by healthy women. I have sisters and have always had girlfriends and grew up watching my mother interact with hers. I love ‘em. But I also know how dangerous unhealthy women can be. And you see a lot of that on reality TV shows. The recent “Blood, Sweat & Heels” offered something rarely shown on reality TV–a healthy female mentor. We saw cast member Demetria Lucas connect with her mentor, the fabulous Harriette Cole. And Harriette–a stylist, journalist, speaker, mother and wife–offered her mentee a few nibbles of sound advice regarding work-life balance (if there really is such a thing).
Admit when you have a problem. They say admittance is the first step and Melyssa Ford owned up to a problem she and cast member Mica Hughes share. “In all honesty, the way I see it, she’s an alcoholic and so am I. And we should probably go to a 12-step program together,” a straight-faced Melyssa told Demetria at the Polo Classic. Demetria didn’t disagree but made it clear that Melyssa’s “never had a violent episode” or “flipped the f— out” like Mica. Though Melyssa did dance on a couch and get super-duper hyped during cast member Geneva Thomas‘ work-related function, I have to agree with Demetria. If Melyssa thinks she really has a drinking problem, then she should treatment and maybe she can encourage Mica to get the help many of her co-stars think she needs.
Leave the past in the past. So following Sunday’s episode, Melyssa, Demetria and Geneva all appeared on Bravo’s “Watch What Happens: Live” with Andy Cohen. Andy brought up a few times when Geneva shaded Melyssa, talking about her financial situation and a couple of other things. Instead of flying off the handle or even returning the slights, Melyssa was very diplomatic, admitted to her faults and moved on. Love it!
Here’s what else is happening…
Macy Gray and Ernie Hudson star in the Lifetime original movie “The Grim Sleeper.” Based on true events, this film “follows LA Weekly reporter Christine Pelisek as she doggedly investigates the unsolved murders of dozens of women in Los Angeles and soon realizes one person is responsible for many of these deaths that began over 20 years earlier,” according to a Lifetime press release. Gray plays an unknown survivor who tells her side of the story while Hudson is one of the investigating detectives.
Guest Editor Melissa Harris-Perry welcomes a baby girl. On Thursday, one of our Black History Month guest editors, MSNBC host Melissa Harris-Perry, told us, “In my personal life there is a little surprise on the way and a big move happening, but I am not telling any details yet.” I had a sneaking suspicion it was a baby but thought she was pregnant. Turns out she and her husband, James, adopted a newborn baby girl. The couple already has a daughter. Congrats!
Black Social Media makes strong impact. In case you’ve been under a rock, Black Twitter is a force to be reckoned with. “It’s not a separate twitter,” says Dawnie Walton, Essence deputy managing editor. “It’s really a very loose organization of people who sort of galvanize when there’s news or a hot topic related to African Americans in the news.” Black Twitter will have a comic rift on often serious and painful topics. Black Social Media serves a similar role that black media outlets, giving shine to topics and events that are significant to the greater black community but are often overlooked by mainstream media. Watch more here.
On my watchlist? What I’m tuning in to see and what I’ll catch up with XFINITY On Demand…
“Being Mary Jane”: OK, episode six airs tonight and I think we’re going to see Mary Jane and Andre’s relationship go to another level. It airs Tuesdays at 10 p.m. EST on BET. Watch it here.
“The Tomorrow People”: I’m almost done with my binge. The show won’t return until Feb. 26 but you can catch up online. When it returns, it airs Wednesdays at 9 p.m. EST on CW. Watch it here.
The Hot List: Who/What’s Hot, Not
HOT: Kevin Hart’s latest movie, “About Last Night,” nabbed the No. 2 spot at the box office over the weekend (Someone’s on a roll!).
NOT: “Blood, Sweat & Heels” star Brie Bythewood comparing how often she talks to her parents to ex-pal and co-star Mica Hughes’ relationship with her parents (It came off very cold.).
HOT: Singer Kelis will star in her own cooking show on the Cooking Channel called “Saucy and Sweet.” (Who knew?!)
NOT: Kandi Burruss’ mother, Mama Joyce, leaving threatening messages on Carmon’s voicemail (Now I see where Kandi’s explosive behavior came from…).
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